Like oil and water, so are your relationship with your mother in-law. Many ways to establish harmonious relationship if you want to be prudent. Relationships with in-laws is not easy, especially if you have different pattern of life and perspectives.
As our own parents, son and daughter-in-law considered to have less life experience. Lifestyle differences may also be due to generational differences. Do not assume that your lifestyles are most correct. Try to observe your mother in-law lifestyle, certainly lots of positive that you can learn from.
Intimate relationship with in-laws is not as difficult as we thought. Try the following tips :
Do not compete with your mother in-law
However your mother in-law is your husband's mother. You and your mother in-law have different roles and positions. Respect your mother in-law and assume her like your own mother.
Make your mother in-law model
As the last person comes into your husband's family, you have much to learn to interact in your husband's family. Marriage is not only unite you with your husband, but also unite your family with husband's family. You can learn from your mother in-law to adapt with other husband's family members.
Try to live apart
Having your own home after marriage is every young couple's dream. By living together with your husband, you will learn how to become a wife. Minor conflict with your mother in-law can be avoided, and vice versa conflict between husband and your mother.
Note your mother in-law's favorite food
Whether you cook for yourself or buy her favorite foods, it will give a positive effect on your relationship. She will regard your attention to her. This action will directly touch of her feelings. Especially if the food is made on your own. Although the taste was awful, but it will not be a problem. It has shown an attention.
Do not tell the bad conduct of the husband
Your husband is her biological son. There's no mother would able to receive bad note about her son. If you're in trouble with your husband and wanted to tell her. State the issues by using words as smooth as possible. Despite it all, you and your husband alone that should be completed your problems without any intervention from third party.
Do not expect your mother in-law to change
She is not your biological parents. You can't force her to conform with you. If your mother in-law were a widow, come to live with you in your own house, you are the one that supposed to adjust. You should take care and pay attention to her needs. As if as you treat your own mother.
Your marriage with your husband has uniting the two families. Good relations must be maintained. Even if you did not managed to establish good relations with your mother in-law, teach your child to honor and cherish your in-laws. And not to discriminate the love between your mother and your mother in-law. A child should learn to respect and love the elders, in this case your in-laws, although they do not get the love in return. That is to proof our devotion to our parents.
' You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving '
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